The fall is finally here. Amazing how seasons bring with them so many memories…good and bad! For me, fall brings an excitement for shedding the old and starting new things. School starts in the fall, football happens, leaves fall, the holidays come, the time changes, and the weather gets funky as we say goodbye to summer. Lots of things change. Sometimes those changes are hard and emotional times. People have all kinds of strategies to deal with change. Again, some strategies are good, productive and healthy whither others…well, not so much! One thing for sure, with the hope that comes from emotional well-being, it is possible to change your strategies when you need to . Here are some quick steps to making some changes for the fall that will help you enjoy this season with your family:
- Set achievable goals. Start small but challenge yourself. If you have had trouble with follow through or commitment, plan 1 activity for the fall that requires you to plan and see it through even if it is difficult or inconvenient. Have you been putting off talking to a family member? Have you put off starting a class? Making a change in jobs? Talking to your child’s teacher? What steps would it take to get it done? Plan it and Do it!
- Communicate! Do you struggle with having sensitive conversations with friends and family? Hard to talk about what is bothering you? Hard to ask for help? Hard to make contact and feel awkward after that? Try writing down the issue. No one else has to read it. Just get it out so that you can objectively inspect the issue you struggle with. Think about what it would look like if the issue were solved. Can you identify some steps that may help? write those down too. Then begin to take those steps. Chances are someone will meet you half way! If not, reach out. Get some help. Call me!
- Understand what’s in the way. The thing that’s stopping you from doing the task, or wanting to do it, is fear. You fear failure or looking bad, you fear the discomfort or confusion of the task. So take a moment to look inward and see this fear. Feel it. Accept it as part of you, instead of running from it. Think about personalizing the fear…visualize it and name it. For instance, you could think of Godzilla. You know what Godzilla looks like. What does it take to defeat Godzilla or live with Godzilla? Visualize becoming friends with Godzilla and then learning that he wasn’t going to eat you after all.
- Now, focus on your intention: Why do you want to change? Why are you doing it? If it’s to make the life of a loved one better, then that’s your intention. That intention is true no matter what the result is. Focus on this, not what bad things might or might not happen.
- This task, as mundane or scary as it might seem, is teaching you about your mind. That’s a wonderful thing. So this task is a huge learning opportunity. What a wonderful way to spend your time!
Make the most of the Fall. Do some regeneration and find your renewed strength, take some time to see the leaves and catch a football game. If I can help you find your hope, call me.